June 16, 2023

Amicable Divorce: Tips for a Successful Settlement

This post was written by: Laaibah Bhatti

Divorce. Often a time of difficult and heavy decisions about your future, so it can be a daunting and stressful prospect.  Not only does it involve a legally binding union, but it often brings emotional turmoil and financial stress.

It is essential to approach a divorce with an understanding of the legal system and tools and techniques that can help make the process smoother for both parties.

This article provides tips for navigating a smooth and amicable divorce.

What is amicable divorce?

An amicable divorce or separation is one in which you both work together to reach a favourable outcome. Rather than trying to score points or hurt one another, you both compromise and work toward the best result for you and your family.

Understand that the marriage breakup can have impacts on the people around you

    Divorce can have a significant impact on the people around you, including family members, friends, and especially children. Divorce can be particularly challenging for any children involved in the family unit. They may experience a range of emotions such as confusion, sadness, anger, and guilt. It can disrupt their sense of stability and security, leading to changes in behaviour, academic performance, and social interactions.

    Gather a positive support network

    For several reasons, having a positive support network is crucial when going through a divorce. Divorce is an emotionally challenging process. Having a supportive network of family, friends, or even support groups can provide a safe space to express your feelings, vent frustrations, and receive empathy and understanding. It helps you navigate the rollercoaster of emotions that come with the divorce process.

    Be clear and kind.

    Your emotions are running high—don’t let them get the better of you. You may be tempted to let your heart rule your head here. Communicate with your spouse as you would want to be communicated with.

    Leave the threats at the door.

    Heartbreak can do strange things to people.

    When you’re mourning the loss of your relationship, you may find yourself throwing out ultimatums left, right, and centre. Don’t make that mistake. This rarely works as an approach and often leads to the spouses becoming more rigid and alienated and ends up in litigation.

    Make sure to understand the financial implications.

    Divorce can have significant financial implications for both parties.

    It is essential to understand the total costs associated with a divorce and budget accordingly. It includes legal fees, court costs, child custody arrangements, and the division of assets acquired during the marriage.

    Stay active

    Remaining physically active during a divorce can help you manage stress better. Exercise increases endorphins, which are chemicals that induce feelings of happiness. Regular physical activity also helps improve sleep and mental clarity while boosting self-confidence and moods.

    We always aim to help our clients towards a fair, respectful solution, and preserve family relationships as far as possible. Contact us today for an initial conversation about your matter. 

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