It sounds strange, but as a divorce lawyer you never know what your clients will throw at you.
The other dreaded D word- DIVORCE.
This normally means fundamental changes, upheaval and pretty much the only guarantee is certain uncertainty for the very immediate future.
Everyone knows someone who “got taken to the cleaners- by their better half or in some cases their lawyers”. It can make sane people reach for the prozac, a bottle or sometimes both. The truth is it is never an easy step to take. I would compare it to the analogy of having to visit your dentist to have some root canal work carried out. It is painful. Emotionally and financially. However once the pain wears off you can be glad its over and that you took the initial step to do it.
I have never had a client who regretted getting a divorce. The only regret is that they wished they did it earlier and didn’t spend hours talking to “friends, colleagues, people down the pub” giving them their stories that have nothing to do with your individual circumstances. It’s a FACT that each case is different so you cannot generalise. By the very nature of what you are doing it is not going to be a wonderful experience but it is a FACT that most families move forward and have no regrets. This includes children, who wish their parents had divorced a long time ago.
Studies from adults with parents whom had “unhappy marriages” and ‘put off’ divorcing to keep the family together, wish that their parents had divorced sooner.
Children are more perceptive than we give them credit for. They can see unhappy parents, and sometimes as adults feel guilty that their parents may have sacrificed their happiness to keep the family together.
A good lawyer will empathise with you and not force you to take any rash decisions. This is why ASTON BOND offer consultations for you to “test the water“ and get sound advice. For example most people think they have to go to court to get a divorce. It’s a FACT that most divorces are paper exercises and not contested.
Sometimes a little knowledge is a dangerous tool so always go to a qualified lawyer when it comes to obtaining a full understanding of what’s involved and of course as Malcolm Ford said in preschool (son of Harrison Ford);
“ My daddy is a movie actor and sometimes he plays the good guy, and sometimes he plays the lawyer!“.
Well that’s Hollywood fiction for you… but it’s the lawyer that can help you get what you want.
Monisha Ferguson, Senior Family Solicitor